certifieddragonenjoyer:
what’s up, coming at you as one of those dirty-minded smut enjoying asexuals handing out water at the orgy or whatever the fuck people say. anyway, lately i get this kind of insidious sense that people think of sex-positive or sex-favorable aces as the “cool” aces. like “hey don’t worry man, i’m asexual but you don’t have to do anything to accommodate it.” And of course it’s a spectrum/umbrella, people can be asexual and sex-positive or sex-favorable, i know that from experience. But i worry it’s also seen as the *more palatable* version of asexuality.
So here’s the reminder that you are not weird or prudish or childish or mean if you don’t want people talking about sex around you. You are not morally reprehensible or puritan or fascist if sex makes you uncomfortable or upset. if someone tries to make you feel ashamed of that discomfort, or pushes your boundaries on purpose just because they can, they’re the ones in the wrong for not respecting you. Never, ever compromise yourself for the sake of people who think you’re less than for how you feel and who you are.
